Naturally wavy hair goes nuts when washed, gelled or moussed?

I have thick wavy hair and I've been growing it out since I'm trying for a Patrick Dempsey look. Since it's been growing I've noticed some post-washing changes. After i shower/shampoo/condition/apply product on my hair (any permutation or combination) it looks great. Perfect volume, softness, texture, shape-ability, hold, natural glow, etc. It even looks a bit like Dempsey's hair by just combing with my hands. But when it dries completely after an hour, it curls up in to medium to small rings, flattens and frizzes out. Needless to say, it looks bad. The thing is, when i dont wash my hair, it looks great, but i dont have a way to keep it in place or style it without any product. These are the products i use now:

Shamp: Head %26amp; Shoulders : smooth and silky

Cond: Garnier Fructis for dry %26amp; damaged hair

Loreal Paris : mega mousse mega hold

or

TRESemme mega hold gel

Any recommendations as to what i should do? I'd rather not NOT wash my hair to keep it looking half decent.

Naturally wavy hair goes nuts when washed, gelled or moussed?

Have you tried John Frieda Frizz Ease? I swear by that stuff.

Naturally wavy hair goes nuts when washed, gelled or moussed?

better dont gel. Must moussed.. style and the wavy will look nicer than gel. moussed look natural... gel look like very not natural effect.

Naturally wavy hair goes nuts when washed, gelled or moussed?

maybe try washing it the nite before a nite out? i also have curly hair (im female and its long) and oftern my curls are much looser and look better the next day.

so sometimes i'll wash and style it while wet with product- use Fructis spray %26amp; style gel then part dry it with a hair dryer, then the next days it just sits better.

Naturally wavy hair goes nuts when washed, gelled or moussed?

i used to have that problom. as soon as u walk out of the shower put ur hair in a tight bun. it will take longer to dry but it looks much better then withough it

Naturally wavy hair goes nuts when washed, gelled or moussed?

I have long wavy hair that can look like lion king after showers. But - there's hope yet.

Try drying it with the hair dryer blowing it downwards (using your fingers to guide it). Then sleep on it. It will help make it look more manageable.

Naturally wavy hair goes nuts when washed, gelled or moussed?

I would recommend a nice razor....to shave it